Day 114: Boredom Is The Enemy

We’re getting there. It’s sometimes slow going, but we’re getting there. The problem is, I get bored. When you’re bored the time goes so damned slowly. I’ve been baking, and cleaning, trying new games, ok only one new game. I reinstalled Sims 2. But I got bored quickly, as usual once I decorated my house and my little family had a baby. I’ve run out of things to occupy myself.

As we speak I have two dozen fudge walnut brownies cooling in the kitchen. And I plan to make another two dozen without nuts. Besides that I’ve been reading. There is a blog I have been reading since way before Hubby deployed. I started reading it when someone linked this entry about the day casualty notification showed up at her door, only to find out they had the wrong house.  I can’t even imagine. I mean I know it happens, and it ALMOST happened here once that I know of, but Wow.

Anyhow, I was reading her post about the Ft Hood shooting and in it she had a really great observation. One I couldn’t have explained better in my own words. And it is how I do it. People ask me that, "how do you do it??" well thank you Sis B for putting it better than I could.

The way to deal with deployment is to have worry times and safe times. Before they leave is a non-worry time. Traveling is always troublesome, but even during the deployments there are times when you can worry less than others. He’s talking to you on IM at the super-FOB? Not so worrisome. Haven’t heard from him in a few days? Must be on a mission. Worry time. You just can’t maintain that level of fear for such an extended period of time, so you break it up into manageable chunks.

That’s exactly it. Now he only gets to the Fob once in a while, so I have to micro manage those little chunks a little further. Not getting an email from the Rear D, means I can worry less too.